Hi Mistress M,
When my fwb gives me a bj most of the time it’s painful, she’s fairly new to the whole experience and so am I. I have a feeling that the pain is a result of me rubbing against the roof of her mouth but she tells me she cant open any wider.
Do you have any advice you can give us to help?
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Im leaving the country soon and I just found a girl who is great but while im away I dont want to be tied down so what is the best way to get her into bed
I suggest you wait until you get back to avoid confusion. Oh and make sure you practise safe sex as you fuck your way around the world. But send her cute postcards so she doesn’t forget about you, well until you meet that sexy Franch/Columbian/Norewgian/Vietnamese girl who makes you forget about her. Be good to yourself and be good to those you meet on your travels. Be honest and considerate.
What happened to your video channel? Are you not going to do videos with Angry and AIDzee anymore? We miss ya!
Thanks for the comment. I have moved to Adelaide to do a psychology degree so it is tricky for Angry, AIDzee and I to get together but it is not the end of Mistress M, just a change. And Angry needs to get his arse over to Adelaide and film.
Hi, I’m 20 years old and have watched you occasionally over the years on Angry Aussie and have you on Facebook. I really admire your work.
I’ve only been on two dates with this girl and she seems to really like me. We’ve already opened up to each other a lot but she’s on a two week trip to San Francisco by herself at the age of 19 on a 1k budget. She’s going to be crashing with some guys over there she met on a cruise on a family vacation. She says they’ve been down here before so maybe her family knows them now. I would’ve kept that to myself if I were her to be honest as it still sounds really bad. I wouldn’t sleep around if she were here so I guess the same principal applies to her being over there. It doesn’t sound like she would as her sex life has been more conservative (only been with two guys) than mine even though she has only guy friends. The most relate-able friendship that comes to mind with the American guys are those friends you would meet at a convention that would hit you up for a place to crash if they came to your city and vice-versa. She even admits to me to putting guys in the friend zone but keeping them around because she likes their attention. So basically guys just want to sleep with her without actually dating her first which she doesn’t let them do.
She told me guys never ask her out (I think most guys assume she has a boyfriend since she’s so pretty) so I think this was just her way of being awkwardly honest to me. Though a girl crashing with some guys for two weeks was a little hard for me to wrap my mind around. I know that she’s an adult that can make her own decisions. I’ve even passed up some opportunities myself. I’m trying to be really chill about all this. In fact she seemed to have gotten a little jealous herself when I hung out with another friend of mine who happened to be a girl. I know dating is just getting to know someone so she has no obligation to me.
Am I being unreasonable here or too jealous? If she did do something then would that behavior be considered acceptable and I should just not be bothered or is this a deal-breaker? This wouldn’t have even been a problem if she didn’t tell me about the guys. I’m not sure how societies views dating anymore as I hear so many different stories now and wanted to ask someone more experienced like yourself.
I won’t be able to talk to her until she gets back home so I’m completely in the dark.
P.S. Sorry if I talked your ear off. (:
I have an assignment due this morning so I can’t give you an indepth answer right now but I did want to say that I like the fact that you are thinking about it and trying to be reasonable about the whole thing and seeng it from both sides. Points to you for that. And points to her for trying to communicate, if somewhat clumsily, but at least honestly. If the two of you can keep the communication going then you have a head start on most couples. Total honesty too early can be too much at times but it is better than dishonesty. So when she gets back it sounds like she will be pretty honest with you about her trip and that you can trust her and then, depending on what she says you can decide whether to move forward with the relationship. Best of luck.
I am a male, but I don’t masterbate the same way most men do. The only way I can get an orgasm or even very sexually aroused is when I keep my underwear on and press down on my penis with my hand or a pillow, rather than having it out and stroking it. Also, because of this, I can never get aroused by most types of porn and don’t think I can even have sex. I also think that I may be asexual for the same reason. Just wondering if this is normal/safe?
Hey there Joseph.
Firstly there is no “normal”. If that is how you get off, that is how you get off. If you want to change that you will need to practice different methods.
You learnt your way of masturbating at some point and it is now your default setting. Your brain is wired to get aroused when you do it that way. Your brain is plastic and you are able to retrain it.
You can teach yourself to masturbate in other ways if you take the time and patience to teach your body and your mind to respond to other forms of touch. Take time to enjoy and explore your body and your penis without the goal of orgasming. Get comfortable, take your time.
Read up on methods of getting in touch with your body and your sexuality.
As for the porn, not everyone gets off on the same kind of porn, let alone the same types of things. Many people don’t even like porn. Some like erotic fiction or shoe catalogues. Again there is no normal.
As for being asexual, these are people who identify as being nonsexual as in having no interest at all.
Again there is no normal and labels can be restrictive.
Be kind to yourself, love yourself and take time to find out who you are without worrying what other people think or do.
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